I am inspired to write about my interpretation to the whole coffee n stories. An interpretation of a women.

Priorities. A word that is synonym to Anush. All this while and mayb for the rest of my life thats how exactly its goin to be. But then again thats my choice. A place i ave given him out of my own will. He has not asked for it. I read Anush's blog before i read Mr dreamvendors. But i knew the jist.

I ll take u a lil back in time. Words that left your mouth jus in innocence made me realise my place in your life. We were heading back home after one of our final day goodbye rendevous. We were almost 5 min away from my place. You in absolute innocence looked at me n said i need to prioritize my life. I need to think abt my career n wht i want to do in life. In complete fun i uttered, "all i want to do is spend the rest of my life with you ". But that only angered you. You ll still recall as that was the very sentence that agitated the lil argument that followed. After a few heated words i asked you "why aint i your`priority?". You said,"Sue if u were my priority i would not be goin to the US. Instead taken the IBM job and been with you." Those words still resonate in my mind. This was no suprise to me. I knew it that Loving him meant lovin him in totality and i most loved this side to him. I was and still aint practical in life and he brings the much needed stability in my life. I refuse to think from my head. So Anush becomes my mind.

But i ve drifted away. I narrated the above incident only to link it how a women sees a relationship and how men view it,even though they are lookin at the exact same thing. I m not goin to apply any of the Venus n Mars explanation here.

Many a times, lets keep it most of the times,women need to be treated as lil princesses. Thats why they call thier love thier "prince charmin no". But over a period of time a man finds it needless to show his affection time n again. The affection after sometime in a relationship is replaced by stability. He starts thinking abt how much he loves you n how he can provide all the comfort in the world to you. He hence takes a step ahead towads practicability and leaves craziness behind. A women sees this as an act of selfishness. But one does not think that its to secure their future. One of thier foot ought to be on ground. And most often than not its that of a men.

Men dont try and understand this. They simply believe that their course of action is right and continue to live so. Did you even once consider her feelings. Did siddhart once ask mansi how she saw the whole thing. Did he once ask her to be his strength. Did he once try and explain her? No, he did not. He made a decision and forced it on her. When u enter a relationship u have to realise u r no more a I, instead a We. I knw u still an individual, but u have to realise that u affect the life of another in a manner u can never imagine. You bring her into ur life and then keep her in one dark corner of your heart. A place were everythin else becomes a priority and she a shadow.

Anush mentioned that career and relationship never meet. Its like sayin two souls never meet. Its implyin that your part of the life is no business of mine. Then how can there exist an "us" if a me co-exists. A partner is someone to whom u open up your doors Anush not shut them out. Your career is equally important to me as it is to you. All i ask you is to make me a part of it. I know i may never understand a single terminology of Engineering but i wanna try to be a part of that life of yours.

Mansi would have never bailed out if he would have made her feel as much a part of his life. He lost his craziness when he was there. She waited for her prince charming to woo her away but he didnt. Even when he got back after a year he was this stable strong guy who only confirmed his love for her but refused to show it. But i wont say what mansi did was right. When u say u love someone you would never walk out on him. No relations work on miracle. They ought to be made to work. You have to believe in your love and see how much strength tht love gives you. You can face jus abt anythin. even death,then wht is distance huh?

Siddhart was jus another guy and Mansi was jus a foolish lover. It hurts for me to even think of givin my body n soul to someone only to wake up one mornin and walk away. I either love him n no one else o jus love someone else. Its not fair on meera. But siddharth didnt care. Meera was as usual caught in the middle. But if i was Meera i wud ave slapped Siddharth and walked off coz no justifications are excusable.

A relationship as rightfully stated by Anush, is based on trust and understanding and not on someones physical being. Anush is miles apart from me but its his thoughts alone that lingers on in my mind. Its his absence alone that brings a tear to me. Its his mail alone that gives me a will to live a day longer. Its his smiling face that gives me hope. Its his kind words, his assurance as he held my hand and promised me to return soon,before the neeta volvo drove my love away fom me. I still remain helpless. A situation totally out of my hand. But happily accepted,becoz it made him happy. Its his choice and i ll support it throgh n through. I may not get to see him for months o hear his voice on the other line. I may not be able to celebrate our two year anniversary togather o cry away my trobles.O lay in his arms till the mornin sun.

But one thing that Anush gave me before he left is priceless and somethin that no one can take it away from me: MEMORIES. A whole lot of them (that includes the book too kanna). Thats when i think to myself. Hmmm mayb this diatance is not all that bad. Mayb Anush is not selfish at all. If anythin i was bein ridiculous.

I agree to Anush's theory of two independent lives to a certain extent but kanna u ve to try n see wht i am tryin to say. the intersection of the two circles should make up for a greater area than the other two individual sides.. Thats when two lovers become a Couple..

Jannu i am not sure how u gonna read and interpret it. But its only fair that i voice out how i feel ; I am afraid that this mayb read wrongly n create a misunderstanding. I hope to God it doesnt.

On a final note: Thank you kanna for loving me the way you have. I am the luckiest Women. I ave my Angel as my love as my life as my Anush.